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Over the months that followed, Nelson found herself attending the trial with her mother and reflecting anew on the aura of dread and fear that hung over her family and childhood--an aura that derived not only from the terrible facts of her aunt's murder but also from her own complicated journey through sisterhood, daughterhood, and girlhood. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe Red Parts\u003c\/i\u003e is a memoir, an account of a trial, and a provocative essay that interrogates the American obsession with violence and missing white women, and that scrupulously explores the nature of grief, justice, and empathy.","brand":"Graywolf Press","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":53537229406574,"sku":"9781555977368","price":18.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0984\/1007\/0382\/files\/imageloader_cd76b9f3-fe43-43c2-969a-e75da1c5471b.jpg?v=1774453065"},{"product_id":"ongoingness-the-end-of-a-diary","title":"Ongoingness: The End of a Diary","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e\"[Manguso] has written the memoir we didn't realize we needed.\" --\u003ci\u003eThe New Yorker\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eOngoingness\u003c\/i\u003e, Sarah Manguso continues to define the contours of the contemporary essay. In it, she confronts a meticulous diary that she has kept for twenty-five years. \"I wanted to end each day with a record of everything that had ever happened,\" she explains. But this simple statement belies a terror that she might forget something, that she might miss something important. Maintaining that diary, now eight hundred thousand words, had become, until recently, a kind of spiritual practice. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eThen Manguso became pregnant and had a child, and these two Copernican events generated an amnesia that put her into a different relationship with the need to document herself amid ongoing time. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003eOngoingness\u003c\/i\u003e is a spare, meditative work that stands in stark contrast to the volubility of the diary--it is a haunting account of mortality and impermanence, of how we struggle to find clarity in the chaos of time that rushes around and over and through us. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Bold, elegant, and honest . . . \u003ci\u003eOngoingness\u003c\/i\u003e reads variously as an addict's testimony, a confession, a celebration, an elegy.\" --\u003ci\u003eThe Paris Review\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Manguso captures the central challenge of memory, of attentiveness to life . . . 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Rachel Aviv explores the complexity of this relationship in seven essays, six originally published in \u003ci\u003eThe New Yorker\u003c\/i\u003e and reconceived for this intimate, revelatory book. \"I wrote some of these stories feeling, existentially, like a daughter, and now I have returned to them with a different identification,\" Aviv writes. \"It was as if I had failed to see the drama on the mother's side, too--her particular longings and humiliations and needs.\" \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eAviv writes about one mother searching for her vanished daughter; another who sacrifices herself for her daughters by working as a nanny for other people's children. In the final story, a daughter's traumatic experience is erased by her family, only to be recast by her mother, the writer Alice Munro, in stories celebrated around the world. \u003ci\u003eYou Won't Get Free of It\u003c\/i\u003e is an astonishing exploration of the competing dynamics of knowing and unknowing, recognition and refusal, that shape our most foundational relationship. 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Ciment asks herself if she told the whole truth back then and what truth looked like to her in that era of love-bead curtains when she fell in love, when no one asked who was served by the permissibility around a May-December romance. In the light of #MeToo, Ciment reexplores the erotic wild ride and intellectual flowering that shaped an improbable but blissful marriage that lasted for forty-five years, until her husband's death at ninety-three. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eThis riveting book about art, memory, and morality asks many questions: Does a story's ending excuse its beginning? Does a kiss in one moment mean something else entirely five decades later? Can a love that starts with such an asymmetrical balance of power ever right itself? 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